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  • Dr. Joan Irvine

YOUR BEST LIFE: Sex, Lubes, Vibrators, and Cannabis = More Pleasure!!

Listen to Your Best Life on April 24 at 2 PM on Healthy ( A very candid show about sex, lubes, vibrators, ED, and cannabis with a pinch of info on Redondo Beach to complete the flavor of this recipe.

Dr. Joan loves to talk about hot sex especially when combined with cannabis, lubricants, and a vibrator. To her, cannabis is like Viagra for women.

Did you know that 70% of women only have clitoral orgasm. Sadly, we’ve been taught that intercourse/penetration is the ultimate sexual stimuli, it’s not – sorry men! This is why adding a vibrator to sex is important for the majority of women. BTW Wirecutter recently reviewed and recommended the top best clitoral vibrators (

Our bodies were built for pleasure aka our natural reward systems; be it from food, exercise, drugs, or sex.

Psychological arousal causes a person to want sex and physical arousal causes physical changes that make it easier for a person to have sex.

As complicated as sex can be, it is really quite simple on a biological basis

  • When someone is sexually aroused, the limbic system of the brain releases a surge of neurochemicals, which are chemical messengers that create feelings of attachment, love, and emotions. The intensity of sexual climax depends on the release of these chemicals. 

  • Some common erogenous zones include the breasts and nipples, neck, lips, mouth, tongue, back, fingers, toes, hands, feet, earlobes, buttocks, and thighs. However, everyone is different, and so are their erogenous zones. But what feels good to you might not feel good to your partners, so you should ask them to find out. 

  • Research suggests that music and dancing produce similar brain activity as masturbation. 

  • An orgasm is quite simply a buildup of sensory and physical stimulation that culminates in an orgasm.

Sexual arousal is a complex process involving multiple hormones and neurotransmitters. Some of the key hormones involved in sexual arousal include:

  • Testosterone: This hormone, primarily found in males (but also present in females in smaller amounts), plays a crucial role in stimulating sexual desire and arousal in both men and women.

  • Estrogen: Estrogen is the primary female sex hormone, but it also plays a role in male sexual function. It contributes to the regulation of sexual desire and arousal in women.

  • Progesterone: Another important female sex hormone, progesterone works in conjunction with estrogen to regulate the menstrual cycle and can influence sexual desire and arousal.

  • Dopamine: Often referred to as the "pleasure hormone," dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a role in the brain's reward system. It is involved in feelings of pleasure and motivation, including those related to sexual arousal.

  • Serotonin: Serotonin is another neurotransmitter that influences mood and behavior, including sexual desire and arousal. Imbalances in serotonin levels can affect libido and sexual function.

  • Oxytocin: Often called the "love hormone" or "cuddle hormone," oxytocin is released during intimate physical contact, such as hugging, kissing, and sexual activity. It plays a role in bonding, trust, and sexual arousal.

  • Vasopressin: Vasopressin, similar to oxytocin, is involved in bonding and pair-bonding behaviors. It can also influence sexual arousal and behavior.

These hormones and neurotransmitters interact with each other and with various psychological, environmental, and physiological factors to regulate sexual arousal and response. Additionally, other hormones such as cortisol, thyroid hormones, and endorphins may also play a role in modulating sexual function and arousal.

But it is often the psychological, sociological, and religious aspects that mess with our heads and can interfere with our pleasure and bonding with our partner.

Plus it has been known for decades that women especially after menopause need more stimulation for sexual arousal and more lubrication which is why cannabis, lubes and vibrators are such essential tools – all add to increased stimulation.

Communication is one of the keys, but we were taught that you don’t talk about sex. This has caused so many issues and divorces.

Dr.Joan recommends that people have frank discussions about sex with their partners and take charge of changes that are happening. For example, I was talking with a friend in her 50’s. She was madly in love with her husband of 30 years but wasn’t as sexually attracted to him and it seemed to her that he was avoiding sex, too. She didn’t want this in their marriage. So she took action and was fortunate to have an enlightened gynecologist who tested their hormones and prescribed testosterone – this reignited their libidos.

Men after 40 may encounter erectile dysfunction issues. Dr. Joan addresses this topic in her blog ‘Erectile Dysfunction Messes with Men’s Head ... and Relationships!’ (

Always remember, there is a statement in the cannabis industry – ‘LOW and SLOW.’ Nothing worse than planning a HOT sexy pleasurable time with your partner or yourself and being too high to enjoy it! Did you notice I said ‘plan’. We all live such busy lives and it’s important to schedule time for sex. It gives us something to look forward to; it’s also good foreplay.


To Health, Happiness, and Hot Sex!



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