We all experience different chapters in our lives, many of which may seem unrelated. Yet, each chapter builds on the last, weaving together our skills, talents, desires, and experiences.
When I reflect on where I am today, I sometimes wonder, “How did I get here?” What a long, strange trip it’s been. But I know that every chapter was essential to the next. You can see what I mean by checking out my professional background on LinkedIn.
As a public-facing community leader in Redondo Beach, I share many aspects of my life. I believe in being candid and transparent about my journey. However, many people only see the current "Dr. Joan." I was recently reminded of this when someone mentioned my appearance on The View when I was interviewed by Barbara Walters. You can watch it here: The View - 1998. That experience was a pivotal moment for me, though not the most pleasant one.
What a coup—my first live TV interview was going to be on The View. I was nervous but felt prepared. I had worked with the producers on a general script for weeks. Then, everything changed. Meredith Vieira was supposed to interview me, but the night before, her son broke his arm, and Barbara Walters was stepping in. OMG! Barbara Walters, the most respected woman in media, who had interviewed thousands of influential people. My anxiety soared. I quickly ran through my relaxation techniques to calm myself, and I thought I was ready. But just as I was about to walk onto the set, the producer said, “Forget everything we planned—just follow Barbara’s lead.” I had only seconds to regroup. I felt like a deer in headlights—TERRIFIED. I was sure I would embarrass myself in front of hundreds of thousands of viewers.
That day, I learned a life lesson: nothing I would do in the future would ever be as scary. And I survived without making a fool of myself! Now, whenever I face the unknown, I remember that day and connect with that positive survival energy. I think of Helen Reddy’s song I Am Woman—"I can do anything." It has become my anthem and has served me well.
When I look back at some of my public appearances from over 25 years ago (View my 1998 public appearance), I can see how much I’ve grown. For one, I’m not as nervous about public speaking anymore.
Yet, what I find most rewarding about my current chapter is offering hope to my peers and younger generations, demonstrating to them that aging doesn’t have to be all negative. At 76, I’m active in my community, still consulting, founded an environmental charity, dance to rock ‘n’ roll weekly with younger friends, and more.
I feel honored when younger women tell me, “I want to be like you when I grow up.” That’s when I know I’m on the right path.
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